Well, he’s here. After a lot of excitement Nathan Andrew Wiseman was born at 11.20 on Wednesday. It all happened very quickly, and once it all picked up, Tassja was only in labour for around 4 hours. We’re all pretty tired, and understandably she’s very sore now, but he’s here. And I’m so proud of them both.
Here’s a picture of our little monkey.
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Okay… looks like I’ve not posted anything on this blog since I was at 12 weeks. So here’s an update.
Right, well the nasty hyperemesis calmed down at about 17 weeks, much to my relief!!!! I still had sickness but it was nothing like the horrendous continuous vomiting. I have rather a lot of scars on my hands and wrists from all the drips they stuck in me, but this baby is more than worth it all 
17 weeks was great for another reason as well. My birthday was in that week and as a birthday present Little Monkey gave me the first kicks I could feel. It was truly amazing and gave me a real burst of confidence that this baby would be joining our family. Even better was that they were strong enough kicks for J to see them and feel them. It was great to finally be able to share our baby.
At 20 weeks we had our scan, all was well and it was good to see our baby again and discover that it’s a little boy. It took me a while for it to sink in that we would be having a little son. Knowing the sex made it even more real for me. I could look at people walk past with their little boys and think to myself that it would be me with a baby boy soon enough. Very exciting and a little daunting.
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It’s been a long time since I last spoke to you, and we both know that today is a special day. I’m not sure if you know where I am, or what’s happening in my life, but I like to hope that you do and that one day you’ll be able to talk to me again. I know that if you do, I’ll have a lot of catching up to do, and that’s something I really would like us to do together.
I realise you may not know this, but every day I wonder what you’re up to, and really hope that you’re happy. Every year on this day, I wish most of all that I could be there with you, helping to make your day special. I hope that you’re having a fantastic birthday, and that it brings you all the things that you’d like.
Happy Birthday son,
With all my love,
xx
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Want to hear something cool?
So cool. You can actually hear Tassja’s in the background, if you listen carefully 
More later,
— J.x
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I’ll warn you now, this is probably going to be quite a long blog post as we’ve not posted anything since May. A lot has happened since then.
I’ll start with the wedding in June. Yup, we did it. We’re now Mr and Mrs Wiseman and it’s wonderful The day was beautiful and it all went smoothly. Potia performed a fantastic ceremony for us. I think having her perform it helped make it the perfect day for us. Thank you Potia, you’re a star.
Although it had been raining all week long, the sun came out for the day and all my worries about ending up with a damp outdoor wedding vanished. Instead I was left wishing I’d put on a bit more sun block
We had a lovely meal afterwards where we got to open our cards and wedding presents. They were all fantastic. A big thank you goes to everyone. Then in the evening the family decided to go out for another meal where it was great to see everyone getting on so well. Lots of family stories were shared along with many many laughs. We couldn’t have asked for a better day or a better start to our marriage.
We did have a big problem before the wedding. A couple of weeks before we were due to drive up to Scotland some rather annoying people decided to break into our car. They didn’t manage to steal it, but they did manage to mess it up rather a lot. The lock on the drivers side had been popped and would no longer work, the ignition had been completely ripped out and was nowhere to be found and the steering column had been broken. Needless to say, it was trashed. The worst was that it was on a bank holiday weekend, so we had a bit of a wait before any garages were open.
After many phone calls on the Tuesday, we managed to get the car towed to a garage. We then spent the run up to the wedding worrying if we were going to get the car back in time. After a lot of work by the garage, we finally got the car back with a day to spare. Cutting it a bit close for my liking. We also had to pay for all the repairs ourselves since it would have taken too long to go through the insurance company. We needed the car too quickly to have time to wait for them.
So, that’s the wedding bit covered. Now on to the next bit…
Anyone who reads this blog will have seen that we lost a baby back in January, we were heartbroken by it. It was the second such loss for us and I was starting to feel that it was never going to go right for us. How could I lose two babies in a row? I felt like such a failure. We didn’t get to see either one of them before they left us. The first was lost at 9 weeks and the second at 10. Both of them very much loved and missed. We’ll never forget them, they will always have a place in our hearts.
So now I get to the happy bit….
We have a baby Wiseman on the way 
It’s been a bumpy ride so far. Emotions have been running high. After two loses it gets a bit scary. But all is going well with our Little Monkey. We had the 12 week scan yesterday and it was great. LM was jumping around and put on quite a show for us. The consultant was fantastic and even moved the scan around so we could see more detail. We saw little feet and toes all a wiggle, hands waving and fingers flexing. It was all suddenly very real for me and I felt great.
My health however has been another story.
I’ll start by warning well meaning people. I know it’s very common to offer helpful advice for dealing with morning sickness, but please don’t try it with me. Believe me I’ve tried the ginger, biscuits, calming tea, little food and often…. to name but a few. It doesn’t work for me and with how ill I am, I’m likely to reply with where you can put that ginger biscuit…. and you won’t like it
I have hyperemesis gravidarum and it’s making life very difficult for me. Check out http://www.helpher.org for more information about the illness. I just can’t describe how awful it makes me feel.
I’ve been hospitalised twice and I should have been in more than that, but I really don’t like being stuck in hospital. I’ve been stuck on an IV drip, had enough blood taken to collapse my veins, had problems with my body going into shutdown and lost so much weight that it’s difficult for me to manage to do much. My days are spent in bed trying not to vomit.
J as usual is proving that he is the ideal husband, I’m so very lucky. He’s taking fantastic care of me. How he manages, I just don’t know. But I’m more grateful than I can ever express.
Even though this pregnancy is difficult for both of us, it’s worth it. It really is. The thought of being able to hold our child in our arms is amazing. It’s a day we are both eagerly awaiting.
I sit here in bed with the laptop, feeling awful but smiling to myself with a tear in my eye. Holding the scan of our baby in my hand and dreaming of the future.
What an awfully big adventure we are embarking on
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